I like to describe it instead as a tree.
The thing that you really desire is the tree. It’s the part above the ground that can be seen. It’s like the canopy of the tree seen in the main image on this post.
But the root system of a tree is enormous to hold it up.
The roots here are the underlying fears, desires, hopes and dreams that hold up the tree.
So, when someone is attached to keeping the house (the tree) what are the fears, desires, hopes and dreams below that (the roots)?
It might be the need to maintain community, fear of losing support from neighbours, needing help on the school run, worry about getting back into the property market, a desire to maintain what the children have known as their home. Sometimes the deep roots can be fear of losing the last piece of the relationship and not being ready to move on.
There is no one size fits all.
Solutions need to be considered which address those underlying roots, to help you establish your better future.
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